Tuesdays with TJae - Taking Up Space
Taking Up Space. Many of you know that I was married for 22 years . . . 2 marriages (marriage one - 14 years; marriage two - 8 years). At the time of my second divorce, that equated to exactly half my life. What I hadn't realized, until last night, was how much marriage trained me to select a spot in the world and stay there.
Let's be clear for those who may not only know me, but one of my exes . . . that last statement is not meant to imply any limitation placed on me by a spouse.
Last night as a prepared to sleep under this pretty new bedding I received for my birthday. I realized that for the better part of the last 2 decades, I have always slept on "my side" of the bed. There was, for so long, someone who took up the other spot, so I had specific space that I carved out as "mine."
After the second marriage, when I first lived alone (ever), I always had stuff on the other side of the bed.
What do you mean by stuff, Tracie?
I'm glad you asked.
All manner of stuff: a week's worth of clothes, books I was trying to read, my computer, mail I opened and didn't tackle . . . .stuff.
BUT Y'ALL!!!! A friend bought me this really pretty bedding for my birthday and I made my bed and crawled into "my spot" and I realized I didn't have to stay there. I realized the whole freakin' bed belonged to me and I could take up as much space as I wanted. I spread out in my bed and took up the whooooole thing!
Who knew that a whole paradigm shift could happen just by clearing space?
My question for us all is: where (else) have we been confining ourselves to a limited space without realizing we can spread out?
Just a thought.
One more thing . . . 2020 came roaring in here like a never-been-tamed lion and I neglected to wish you all a Happy New Year. May this year be the answer to all the questions you've been asking and all the prayers you've been praying.